Q: Why would a person come to your class when they could go to a 12-step support group for free?
- A: I believe that the 12-step program is inspired and is a great guide on key aspects of repentance. But what I experienced personally was that I needed more specific tools on how to avoid temptation and to become stronger each day. The principles taught in the PAR class go hand-in-hand with the 12 steps. For instance, going along Step #4, "Make a searching and fearless written moral inventory of yourself," is the principle Know Thyself. We look at specific areas in which we need to come to understand ourselves and why we do what we do. Long story short, I encourage the use of and adherence to the 12-steps. What the PAR class offers is simply a handrail to support you on the way up. Along those same lines then, I would actually encourage class participants to attend both the class and a support group. The class is meant to help give meaningful content while the support group emphasizes accountability and connection.
- A: As a mental health professional, I believe everyone can benefit from therapy, but not everyone needs it. This class will help participants take a close look at themselves. In some cases, all some need is more education in order to change while others begin to recognize what areas they would benefit processing with a therapist. What we teach doesn't replace therapy, it's meant to help make the therapy process more effective and targeted on the individuals needs.
- A: Therapy focuses on one person, while the PAR class focuses on several people at once thus distributing costs. As far as being cheaper than other groups, I want to encourage participation and attendance. Costs that are too high can keep a person from getting the help they need. Ultimately I do this because I am passionate about the topic, love to teach, and I want to help. Charging a reasonable amount allows me to cover costs and my time, but doesn't hold people back from coming.
- A: If you feel that a ward member would benefit from taking the class but is financial unable to cover the costs themselves, then use your discretion in paying for the class. It is encouraged that the ward member pay what they can (fiscally or through service) so they feel a sense of ownership over their participation.
- A: At the heart of what the PAR class teaches is changing student's perspective of and relationship with repentance. It's helping student's see it is one of God's greatest gifts made possible by Christ's atonement. It is meant to be more encompassing than just repenting of sins related to pornography use but rather is meant to help us overall in losing our desire for any sin. I reference scriptures and quotes from church leaders through the different topics we discuss. If you'd like more specifics, please feel free to contact me specifically.